Well,
It’s that time of year again….a lot of ceremonies are going on my school’s campus and I’m seeing the products of those ceremonies. I’m noticing that a lot of the people that I’ve come into contact with during my matriculation are now the products of said ceremonies. And after seeing that. I’m back at the place I was my freshman year. 50 Million questions…. If I had the time to invest, I would have made an attempt to become a product myself… (Not necessarily saying that I wont have the time in the future.) I guess you can say I’m at a crossroads….Growing up, I was known as the quiet kid that stayed to himself…didn’t really speak much, did good in school, but not so well socially…Once I got into college, I started to come out of my shell a little, but sometimes I still revert to my old ways…knowing this, that is where my questions come into play….
If I do it would I lose my individuality?
Or, would I learn more about myself through doing it?
How would it fit into my already hectic schedule?
Is it something that I really want to do?
What would be the purpose of me doing it?
How would It better me as a person?
Would it better me as a person?
*I don’t know if other people that have done it have internally asked themselves these questions but every time I think about it I tend to…
**Hopefully some greeks out there can comment on this and shed some light on my questions…
The Black Lounge 
Going greek can be a learning experience and an identity lost if you allow it to be… Pledging should be something that you should want to do for your personal reasons and not what the “GREEK LIFE” promises to be. Make it what you want it to be. You know the saying..It only can be as good as you make it, so decide for you what would it be. It will only steal your identity if you allow it, and you will always learn as long as you put your mind into it. I say give it a chance, just make sure you make a selection wisely and not somethingn you will regret in the long run…
Something u must take into account along with all of your other questions is what type of process will you be a part of it and whether the physical aspect, if any, is worth it to you.
Bruh, I’m a member of Kappa Alpha Psi, so I say what I am about to say from the perspective of someone who is where you’d like to go: KEEP THIS ON THE LOW.
The last thing you want to do is blog about it. I know you didn’t say which way you want to go, but you would be amazed by how word gets out and what people do with that information once it does.
My advice to you is to reach out to members of the chapter/org you’re interested in joining in person, not in writing, and go from there. Don’t draw attention to yourself. Don’t be known or even suspected as someone who can’t keep his mouth closed (not saying that you are, mind you). Move quietly, prepare yourself and then get ready for whatever may come.
Best of luck to you. You’re a bright, intelligent brother. I like that in you.
I think as a young Black male…going Greek would be an EXCELLENT move for you just for the network potential as an adult alone.
(I feel so old over here. ROFL!)
I agree with BREAKING POINT, whatever decision you make, make it privately. You can research organizations locally and read websites to get basic information about their involvement and general knowledge. See if the organization stands for the things you stand for and if you feel you would be a good match. Get to know some local people at the chapter where you go to school. Think about it, and see if you can see yourself “reppin” them for the rest of your life.
Good luck.
Every person is different, and so is every greek orgnization. With that being said, every single one of them has it’s goods and bads. If you let being greek become the only part of your life, more than likley it will have some effect on your life/identity. I feel like being a part of the greek community should only be a section of your life as a whole, and that your orgnization should accept you first as who YOU, and then with the help of your “brothers and/or sisters” they will open you up to new things that you might not have realized otherwise