Me: “Yo, you still competing in the ‘Do You Know Your Best Friend Contest’ with me tonight?”
Best Friend (or so I thought) A: “Uh, nah. Me and my girl are gonna chill today. Besides, I don’t know you well enough!”
WTF?! I’ve been scratching my head about the last line of the above conversation for a week now. (And yes, that was a real conversation).
How can you be quote-en-quote Best Friends or better yet, “brothers” with someone that you claim you barely know?
I’ve been cool with Best Friend A since the Sixth Grade. And although, we didn’t start chillin outside of school until after graduation, We’ve gotten (or at least I thought) pretty tight in the almost five years it’s been. So you can imagine my surprise when dude said those words over the phone. I can’t front though; Best Friends A and Q have said that to me before.
A couple of years back during one of our many cruising around the Capital Beltway sessions at about midnight or so the conversation turned to them asking me why I don’t open up about myself to them, when they’ve done it on numerous occasions. Outside of the rare occurrence of drama in my life which they’ve been around for (the crazy GF and subsequent incidents of ’06, and probably one or two other things that I can’t remember), I lead a pretty mundane and predictable life. During the school year, I work, I go to class, I study and I sleep. Outside of the random phone call or rare drop through, I’m pretty much M.I.A. for the better part of an entire semester. It’s not because of my not wanting to be around them, it’s because I have things I need to do. With my having to work every weekend, that ends up confining my social time to the school week. And during that time, im usually on campus covering an event for the Yearbook or Newspaper, studying or at home doing homework.
If I do feel stressed out about something, 9 times out of 10 it’s school related; and outside of last semester when I was stressing about Engineering Mechanics and every phone call to them was about it; I usually keep it to myself and keep it moving.
Could he feel that he doesn’t know who I am anymore because I don’t come around as much? Could it be because I don’t vocalize my issues and stressors?
I honestly don’t know.